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Xd hdi ngdy cdng phdt trien theo xu hudng

md cua vd hdi nhdp. Tuy nhien, mdt trdi

cua md cua vd hdi nhdp Iqi cd nhung dnh

hudng tieu cue den tdm li vd he thdng gid trj cua

nhieu tdng Idp, ddc biet Id thanh nien hge sinh

(HS). Hien nay, rd't nhieu HS gdp khd khdn trong

viec dmh hudng gid tn sd'ng, lya chon nghe

nghiep vd ung xu de ddp ung dugc su ki vgng,

yeu cdu cua gia dinh, nhd trudng vd xd hdi. Mdt

bg phdn khdng nhd trong sd dd dd roi vdo trqng

thdi ddn nen, edng thdng, lo du, thdm chi rdi loqn

tdm li. Nhu cdu dugc ddng cdm, chia se, dugc

dmh hudng vd ehdm sdc sue khoe tinh thdn cua HS

ngdy cdng coo. Do dd, viec xdy dyng, phdt trien

md hinh phdng tham vdn hge dudng trong nhd

trudng de can thiep, trg giup HS gidi quyet nhung

khd khdn vudng mde ve mdt tdm li Id mdt viec Idm

cdn thiet vd cdp bdch. Tham vd'n hge dudng Id mdt

hoqt dgng trg giup dya tren sy tuong tdc giua nhd

tham vdn vd HS (thdn chu) dong gdp khd khdn ve

tdm li. Trong qud trinh ndy, nhd tham vdn su dyng

kien thuc, kT ndng chuyen mdn giup HS khoi ddy

tiem ndng de cd the ty gidi quyet vdn de dang gdp

phdi. De cd the trg giup HS mdt cdch cd hieu qud,

ddi hdi CBTV hqc dudng phdi cd mot so phdm

chdt vd ndng lyc chuyen mdn nhd't djnh; trong

dd, ve CO bdn, edn ed nhiJng phdm chdt sou:

1. Chop nhqn: Cdn bd tham vdn (CBTV) hge

dudng phdi chdp nhdn con ngudi thye cua HS

nhu nhung gi dong hien huu, phdi de HS dugc

bdc Id mgt cdch thdnh thye nhdt tdm trqng hq luc

dy, dugc thuc su la chinh hg (thdnh thdt hoy gid

ddi, du trT hay trudng thdnh, tuyet vong hay qud

ty tin...). HS thudng tim de'n CBTV khi hq dang

gdp nhung vudng mde, khd khdn ve tdm If vdi

nhu cdu dugc chia se, thdu hieu vd ddc biet Id

cdn sy trg giup thdng minh cua CBTV de hg binh

tTnh nhin nhdn vd ddnh gid Iqi vd'n de cua minh.

HS khdng edn mot quan too vdi nhung phdn xet,

khuyen can be tren; do vdy, CBTV khdng nen con

thiep vdo ty do cua thdn chu, khdng gdy sue ep,

dp ddt quan diem, phe phdn, khuyen nhu md

edn biet Idng nghe vd tdn trgng tuyet dd'i... Neu

CBTV khong chdp nhgn HS mdt each vo dieu kien

(nhdng cdm xuc, suy nghT, hdnh vi cua HS) thi

qud trinh fham vdn se khong dqt hieu qud vi HS

se phdng ve vai CBTV va khdng chia se that Idng

nhdng gi md hg dang trdi qua.

2. Tdn trgng: Tuyet ddi tdn trgng thdn chu Id

yeu cdu bdt budc ddi vdi CBTV. Neu CBTV tdn

trgng HS se Idm cho HS cdi md, hgp tde vdi CBTV.

Su tdn trqng the hien d thdi do khdng phdn xet,

khdng thuc ep HS nhanh chdng ed ede quyet dinh

vd tin tudng vdo sy thay ddi tich cyc trong hdnh

vl, nhqn thuc cua HS. HS dugc quyen Id chfnh

hg, cd quan diem, suy nghTvd cdm xuc rieng. Du

HS cd nhCrng hdnh vi Idi Idm, CBTV cung cdn tdn

trgng con ngudi hq, khdng cd y nghT phe phdn,

ghet bd, coi thudng... Trong tdm trqng bdi rdi,

dou khd, HS de cd mde cdm ty tl, hq rd't nhqy

cdm khi CBTV bleu Id thdi do khdng tdn trqng hg.

Neu CBTV de cho than chu «dgc" dugc suy nghT

va cdm xuc cua minh, hg se tim each ddi phd

hoac hodn todn khong tin tudng CBTV, va nhu

vqy, «ca" tham vdn da hodn todn thdt bqi.

3. Trung thuc: CBTV phdi the hien sao cho

HS nhdn thuc dugc anh dy (cd dy) Id ngudi «ddng

tin cdy, chdc ehdn, trung kien", nghTa Id bdt ki

tinh cdm hay thdi do ndo CBTV dang trdi quo

phdi phu hgp vdi su nhdn thuc cua CBTV ve thdi

do dy. CBTV phdi the hien Id mdt con ngudi ddng

nhdt nguyen ven, tu nhien khdng phdng ve vd

trung thue tuyet ddi vdi chfnh bdn thdn minh.

4. Thdu cdm Id mdt sy trdi nghiem cdm xuc

coo hon su thdng cdm, ddng cdm. Thdu cdm cd

nghia Id hieu dugc nhung finh cam va suy nghT

ben trong cua HS va cam nhqn dugc cdm gidc,

noi dau cua hg nhu chinh hg dang cam thdy.

* Tnrdng Dai lioc sir pliam Ha Npi

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