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TECHNIQUE #53:

DON'T ASK "WHAT DO YOU DO?"

Develop an ear for appropriate topics of conversation.

Pedigreed and other prestigious prey have very sensitive

toes. You don't want to go around stomping on them.

Above all, avoid the favorite party question, "And, what

do you do?" It tags you as so working class.

Use Status Words with Status Prey

People from richer backgrounds have richer clothes, richer houses, richer cars, and richer

vocabularies. They don't necessarily have big cars, but they do tend to avoid the common little ones.

It's the same with their words. They don't often use big ones, but they do avoid the common little

ones that have little impact.

To be well-spoken in the well-heeled, high-accomplishment crowd, use the technique I call your

personal thesaurus. Think of some words you often use, for example, the overused words good

and smart. It's very common to say, "You look good" or "That's a smart idea."

Take a thesaurus (a dictionary of synonyms) down from the library shelf. Look up smart and good.

You'll find dozens of richer synonyms. Like trying on a suit of clothes, choose three or four words

that seem to fit your personality. Then, Hunters, the next time you want to compliment your classy

Quarry and tell her she looks good, say, "Oh, Sue, you look ravishing," or stunning. or "Sue, how

striking you look," or "Oh, my goodness, you look elegant."

Huntresses, you'd like to compliment your highbrow Quarry by telling him he did something smart?

Instead, say, "Oh, George, that was so clever of you," or how resourceful, or ingenious. "George,

that was so astute of you."

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Give high rollers high-rolling compliments. Cultivate your own personal thesaurus of not big words,

but words you like, elegant words that fit you. Use them a few times with your friends and family.

Soon, just like breaking in a new pair of shoes, you'll be comfortable chatting with your well-spoken

Quarry.