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feel beautiful. Trapped inside every frog-faced man is a handsome prince waiting for you to kiss him

with praise.

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TECHNIQUE #41:

SHORT ON ASSETS? GO LONG ON PRAISE

Attractive and accomplished people are accustomed to

praise, so compliments often have less value on the open

market. Seek original praise for popular Quarry.

However, if your Quarry is not used to being praised, he

or she is hungry for your words of appreciation, no

matter how trite.

Feed your Quarry's ego the appropriate diet and watch

his or her love grow.

Knee-Jerk Praise: "What You Just Did Was Fabulous"

Here is a little pistol shot you must use with everyone whether her face is plain or pretty, whether his

accomplishments are trivial or triumphant. I call it the knee-jerk compliment.

There are crucial moments when, if you don't offer a compliment, you will offend your Quarry. If he

or she has just finished an accomplishment (made a big sale, taken a final bow after a performance,

successfully negotiated a deal, cooked a great meal), make sure the very first words out of your

mouth relate to that just-completed triumph. At that moment, your Quarry is sure to have only one

raging question in his or her mind: "How'd I do?" If you don't want to lose love points, you must first

give your Quarry an instantaneous knee-jerk compliment.

A friend once told me how disappointed he was in his girlfriend's reaction to a speech he gave for

his industry's convention. Right after his talk, which had been a great success, he strutted back

amidst the applause to take his seat next to his significant other. The first thing she said to him was,

"Wave to

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Bill and Sue back there. We didn't know they were going to be here." Boom! What a letdown.

Where was his well-deserved compliment?

A few moments later she did say, "You gave a great speech, sweetie," but it was too late. What a

difference if she had first complimented his speech and then said, "By the way . . ."

TECHNIQUE #42:

THE KNEE-JERK COMPLIMENT

After your Quarry's accomplishment, compliment

immediately. The first syllables you utter must be the

flattering answer to the unasked question, "How'd I do?"

One last caution on the knee-jerk compliment. Be sure your compliment shoots high enough. When

in doubt, aim even higher. "Good job" might come across as insulting if he thought he'd done a great

job. "Nice presentation" could be a real disappointment if she thought she'd made a terrific

presentation.

Have the First Laugh

To a comedian, your face is just one of many bobbing around in the sea facing him in the club. As he

delivers each punch line, you suspect he's unaware of who starts the trickle, or the riptide, of

laughter.

Not so! As a speaker, I guarantee you that every one of my colleagues knows precisely who

inaugurated the laughter, precisely how long after the punchline was delivered, and precisely how

enthusiastically they laughed.

Huntresses, so it is with most men, even if they're just telling a joke to a few friends.

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TECHNIQUE #43

(ESPECIALLY FOR HUNTRESSES):

HAVE THE FIRST LAUGH

Huntresses, it is with embarrassment that I offer you this

obvious technique, but leaving it out would be a grave sin

of omission.

Be the first to laugh at his jokes, and laugh the longest.

Many a Huntress who had the first laugh when her

Quarry made a joke has had the last as she waltzed off

to the altar with him.