Working with a study budy 2 pps

BEING YOUR OWN PARTNER

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APPRECIATE YOUR OWN LEARNING STYLES

Since you’re working alone, you only have your own learning styles to

consider. This presents a good opportunity for you to make sure you’re

using methods of studying that are suitable for the way you learn. Be

aware of what works best for you and make changes if necessary. (You

may want to review Chapters 2 through 5 on learning styles.)

START WITH THE POSITIVE

Begin a session by asking yourself what you liked about what you read,

wrote, saw, or heard. Starting out with something you enjoy and feel

comfortable with will give you a sense of accomplishment as you say to

yourself, “I know that!” Then you can face the more challenging material

with a good attitude.

USE SENSITIVE TALK

Remember, you’re your partner now. Keep being sensitive to your feelings!

Use the magic word “I” even when talking to yourself. When you begin

statements with, “I like . . .” and “I feel . . . ” you’re assuming responsibility

for your opinions and feelings, and you’re respecting yourself.

As you read the next part of this chapter, talk to yourself using sen￾sitive talk. Pretend you’re talking to your partner. Begin by saying, “What

I’ve gotten out of this lesson so far is . . . ,” adding whatever comes to

mind. Continue with, “This makes me think of . . .” and keep talking until

you have a good understanding of the lesson.

RESPECT YOURSELF

Be nice to yourself as you push ahead. Studying the material so that it

makes sense to you is hard work! Acknowledge your challenges. One of

the comforts of a buddy is that you have someone who knows what

you’re going through, someone who’s listening to you talk about your

hard day and who is also talking about his day. Play both roles yourself.

Try It!