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music comes on, dance. When the dishes need to be done,

wash them.

The secret to lasting irresistibility is to build a habit

of being fully engaged, moment to moment, in everything

you do. You can’t pretend to be fully engaged as a manipu￾lation to try to produce a date or meet more men. It has to

be authentic. Practice for the simple joy and satisfaction

that comes from being fully awake and enthusiastically

involved in your life.

Being authentically irresistible is about being alive and

engaged. The easiest way to do that is to stay out of your

head and in your life. Talk with people regardless of their

date-ability. Connect with everyone—animals, plants, old

ladies, little babies. Share yourself. Be wherever you are

with totality.

Irresistible Insight Questions

1. Do you often complain about things you have

absolutely no control over, like the weather and traffi c?

Does it help?

2. Are you willing to look and see how much of your

life is currently wasted on complaints? How many

more men would you meet if you took your attention

off your complaints and redirected it out in your

environment?

3. What other kinds of relationships might you develop?

Friendships, business contacts?

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Irresistible Action Challenge

Become a complaint-free zone for a day. This game

is a fun way to bring awareness to how much of your

life you spend complaining. You can play by yourself

or with friends. For one full day, don’t complain about

anything. That includes the weather, your body, men,

work, coworkers, politics, or money. Anytime you catch

yourself complaining mentally or out loud, just drop it.